Saturday, 20 November 2010

30 Truths

1. Bad decisions make good stories.

2. The most powerful force in the universe is: gossip

3.A Sat-Nav should start its directions on #6, as I’m pretty sure I know how to get out of my town.

4. Part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your internet history if you die.

5.Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.

6. I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t at least kind of tired.

7.Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don’t want to have to restart my collection…again.

8. I keep certain people’s phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

9. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

10. I wish Google Maps had an “Avoid rough areas” routing option.

11. How many times is it appropriate to say “What?” before you just nod and smile because you still didn’t hear or understand a word they said?

12. Sometimes I’ll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

13. The badness of a movie is directly proportional to the number of helicopters in it.

14. I feel there is a need for a sarcasm font

15. No matter what happens, somebody will find a way to take it too seriously.

16. Everyone likes somebody who gets to the point quickly

17. Casual swearing makes people sound stupid.

18. Anyone can be calmed in an instant by looking at the ocean or the stars

19.Curiosity never killed anything except maybe a few hours.

20. Facebook is the best means of communication - not talking.

21. Not everything you cook is edible.

22. Getting post which isn't a bill is such a thrill these days.

23. Everything can be fixed with enough sellotape, glue and staples.

24. Special offers have such an influence on your shopping technique.

25. I don't think puns have ever been so popular.

26. Checking your e-mails can be a great excuse to get out of an awkward situation.

27. Wikipedia and are the fountain of all knowledge.

28. iphones can't physically go in a pocket, but must be out and accessible at all times.

29. It's a little known fact that the Dark Ages were caused by unresolved Y1K issues

30. A paper clip is just a baby coat hanger.

Friday, 22 October 2010

100 Classics

I have set myself the task of attempting to read 100 classic books. The list:

1. Little Women - Louisa May Alcott
2. Fairytales and Stories - Hans Christian Anderso
3. Northanger Abbey - Jane Austen
4. Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen
5. Great Expectations - Charles Dickens
6. The Great Gatsby -
F. Scott Fitzgeral
7. T
ess of the D'urbervilles - Thomas Hardy
8. The Hunchback of Notre-Dame - Victor Hugo
9. The Phantom of the Opera - Gaston Leroux
10. Five Children and It - Edith Nesbit
11. 1984 -
George Orwell
12. Frankenstein - Mary Shelley
13. Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck
14. The Invisible Man - H.G. Wells
15. The Plays of Oscar Wilde -
Oscar Wilde
16. Mrs Dalloway - Virginia Woolf
17. Catch 22 - Joseph Heller
18. Peter Pan - J.M. Barrie
Brave New World - Aldous Huxley
20. The Great Adventures of
Sherlock Holmes - Arthur Conan Doyle
21. The Odyssey - Homer
22. Dracula - Bram Stoker

Thursday, 7 October 2010

Humour This.

A good sense of humour is so important these days, ranking higher than good looks or intellect in must-have qualities in people we seek to engage with. We see it as a sign that people are happy, confident, and socially aware. But humour is not just a social way of communicating, it also reveals huge insight into peoples personality. For example people who have an aggressive side may be able to express this by using 'put-downs' or 'teasing' in a social group as a way of letting this aggression out in a less physical manner, while managing to avoid any responsibility for this invading behaviour, citing it as 'a joke'. Or those who have low self-esteem or anxiety using themselves as the joke, hiding behind a character for people to tease. But while this may start off harmless, others will begin to lose respect for the 'clown' and ultimately erode their own self respect.

Watching how people react and interact to humour can be very interesting, and tells a lot not only about the person performing, but the reaction from those around. A good, well-balanced social group also needs to be able to understand and gauge the humour of those around, and requires people with both similar and different humour types to ensure everyone gets the most out of the conversation and the humour. If all members of a group want to be, 'the spotlight' type this can lead to strong conflicting characters fighting to be constantly centre of attention, but one alone will not be able to carry the whole group and can lead to members beginning to find that person annoying. Equally a whole group of 'put-downers' can quickly lead to conversation turning nasty or serious, with some 'laugh at life' humour types needed to ensure the humour is kept, well, humorous.

To maintain a social group a good 'bonding type' humour is needed to keep the group together. A 'bonder' is really the glue to a social group and should be very much at the core, it reminds others of the humours times they have had together, and why they are socially invested in this group of people. Shared experiences makes people feel secure, and laughing enables them to feel relaxed, therefore laughing about shared experiences helps to settle people into a group and want to return to this social circle again. However, bonding types can also make new members to the group feel like outsiders, and make others feel they are not part of the social group; they are able to ostracise members and very much play the dynamics of the group. With new members, this can lead to one of two things. Firstly this may mean an individual no longer wishes to be part of this social group, especially if the bonders are also a 'spot-lighter' or there are strong put-downers in the group. They do not feel welcome to be part of the group, and therefore do not return. A second option may be that the new member feels as if they want to 'earn' their way into the group, they want to be part of the in-group, and will therefore start to join in, and fill in an empty dynamic of the group. Once they have earned a place in the group, that person is now very much invested in the effort they input to become part of the group, and will therefore value the membership of this group quite highly. In this situation if a new member is a bonder, they are able to fit in quite well bringing up or making new shared experiences, but this may lead to head-to-head type behaviour with an already established bonder bringing up situations the new bonder can not join in with. Saying this, a bonder mostly needs a second bonder in a social group to be able to bounce of each other, much like at least 2 spot lighters are needed. There also needs to be at least one laugh at life types when there are put-down or hate-me types, and the put-down or hate-mes really should not outnumber any other humour type.

Each social group also needs a few 'laughers.' These are people who do not really bring much humour to the group, but are vital as they are normally 'spotlight conversationalists' (those who lead a lot of conversation or are very knowledgeable or interesting) or 're-assurers'. They laugh at the humour, and keep the 'entertainers' in check. While the 'spot lighter' likes to think they are in charge, in fact it is the 'laughers' who direct conversation, as they can dictate who to laugh at and when to laugh, ensuring no one oversteps the mark or gets carried away. 'Laughers' police the humour, enabling people to continue to feel secure and relaxed in the situation without the worry of it becoming unbalanced. Without 'laughers' a bonder may start to purposely leave people out and make others feel uncomfortable or a 'put-downer' may turn nasty. Hopefully all members are able to read the situation, gaining social cues from the 'laughers,' knowing they will not laugh when they have gone too far and will therefore modify their humour to avoid similar behaviour, and adjust to the dynamics of the group. Therefore once the 'laughers' have set the boundaries for appropriate humour within the group, all can relax and the humour can ensue.

What humour type are you?? You might change depending on the situation or group of people. Sometimes it's just interesting to see how other people interact :)

Thursday, 30 September 2010

Look-a-likes 3 Miliband/Ramano

A look-a-likes 3 post transpired today due to it being brought to my attention the damn-right shocking similarity of these two chaps...
Mr Ray Romano from, 'Everybody Loves Raymond' and
Mr Ed Miliband, a British Labour Party Politician and current Leader of the Labour Party

(Sorry I can't make them both the same size - FAIL)

Special Thanks to a Mr Octavio Amezcua for pointing this likeness out, and in fact holds full credit for this discovery. x

Thursday, 28 January 2010

Long Time

I wanted to post, but i'm not really sure what about. Its been so long, a full update wouldn't really be appropriate.
I am studying for my Masters degree, and it is hard work.
I am just going to leave this:
its my published paper - on a french website... oh yeh... i'm international baby! whoop